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As fast-paced and crazy as the world is today, it is easy to find ourselves overwhelmed. Are You Being Overwhelmed? Is the world around us getting to be too much to handle? You only have to watch television or read the many feeds on social media to see that there’s so much going on around the world. Extreme weather conditions, drama in politics, people losing their lives from many different reasons, homes being destroyed by fires or nature taking a turn for the worse. It seems to be getting too much to bring in, and for some, people are scared and nervous. Overwhelmed? What to do. When this happens, I always advise people to pull away from the news and social media, at least for a while. By doing so, you’re not pretending nothing is happening or choosing to ignore it! What you’re doing by pulling back is: you’re remembering who and what you are and acknowledging that you’re made of soul energy. You’re a soul that comes with a body … not a body that comes with a soul. You are a soul first, and stronger than you could ever imagine! And yes! One person can make a difference! When you want to pull back and experience the sensation of being with your soul, or when you feel that you need to slow the pace down when life gets chaotic, close your eyes, put your hands over your heart, breathe, and say to yourself: “Find your center.” By doing so, you’ll connect with your soul, where you’ll discover that you’re able to let go and relax into the present. Once you center yourself, you can send out that peaceful healing energy and thoughts to others. We often forget that we’re all made up of energy, and we’re…
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We’ve gathered 10 mindfulness practices created by women to help you live a generous, compassionate, healthy life.
Loving-kindness meditations point us back to a place within, where we can cultivate love and help it flourish. Developing care toward ourselves is the first objective, the foundation for later being able to include others in the sphere of kindness. Here’s a simple explanation of the loving-kindness practice, which involves silently repeating phrases that offer good qualities to oneself and to others:
To be kind to others, you need to start with yourself.
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Practicing mindfulness in social interactions isn’t a solo pursuit, or still, or quiet. By definition, you have to be with others, you have to act, and you have to communicate. So what’s a well-meaning practitioner to do? You can get started with these simple practices for cultivating poise in crucial conversations. Start by practicing the following exercises solo one at a time, then graduate to putting them together in conversations with others:
To perform at our best in crucial conversations, marrying mindful intentions with mindful actions helps to ensure that you can make good on your good intentions.
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Tara Brach and her husband, meditation teacher Jonathan Foust, have developed a regular practice for keeping the lines of communication open and maintaining a deep, loving connection. They engage in the practice two mornings a week. Here’s how Tara suggests going about it.
Explore this practice for building connection—a sneak peek from Mindful’s feature story on relationships in the April 2017 issue.
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There seems to be this epidemic of self-judgment in the world, where people are often self-critical and have a lot of self-hating voices in their heads. Self-compassion is not the build up of self-esteem, because the build up of self-esteem tends to lead people to needing a lot of external validation to feel ok. Instead, self-compassion is the idea that even with all of our flaws, we can still care about ourselves, that we can make mistakes, that we can screw up, that we can have problems, but we’re still fundamentally a good human being.
A guided meditation to get familiar with self-judgements and how we relate to our flaws, so that you can cultivate compassion and recognize your own worthiness.
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We give very little attention to learning to listen, learning to really hear another person or situation. Yet think back to the moments with other people when our hearts were engaged and we felt fed by being together. In those moments, weren’t we hearing one another? Here’s how mindful listening leads to real change:
When we think we already know what there is to hear, we are simply moving a little too fast to really listen—That’s where meditation comes in.
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The loving-kindness practice that taught in Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy with moms who have a history of depression has been a touchstone for many during hard times. We share a portion of the guided meditation here with you with our wish that you and your children are well and live with ease:
Parenting is beautiful and rewarding, and it is hard work, even on the best of days. Try leaning on this mindfulness practice when things get rough.
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The good intentions cultivated by loving-kindness meditation lead to more supportive self-talk and better moods. You can hold your own suffering fully, and also hold the suffering of this other person. Ride it like the waves on the ocean—in and out.
Kristin Neff guides us through a twenty-minute compassion meditation, first directing kind phrases to ourselves and then to others.
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Becoming familiar with a difficult emotion means getting interested and curious about it, like you might do when visiting a new city. Take it slow, uncovering new “territory” a bit at a time instead of trying to get to know it all at once. As you do, you learn that you can sit with uncomfortable feelings, and that they will eventually pass. Over time, you develop resilience, self-knowledge, and trust in yourself—the best antidotes to the self-judgmentthat shame inspires.
Exploring difficult emotions and experiences may be the key to loosening their hold over us. Try this 10-minute mindfulness practice from Patricia Rockman, MD.
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Sometimes there are things in our life that we’re not crazy about, that are quite unpleasant, very distressing even—and yet there’s nothing we can do about it. And in those moments acceptance, acknowledging what is true without adding on layers of “I don’t want this to be true,” “It’s not fair,” “I don’t like this,” “Why did this happen to me,” can help us get through these difficult times with more ease.
We can’t ignore the hard stuff. Here’s a 10-minute mindfulness practice for navigating—not resisting—everything life throws our way.
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IWhen we can notice what we feel without having to hold on to it, we can let it go and return to the present moment over and over. And that feels damn good.
Try this meditation practice to relax your body from head to toe.
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There’s a balancing of gender power happening across the professional world—including the mindfulness world. Ten leaders in the field share how they claim their power and bring the diversity of their experiences in the mindfulness movement to bear in their work.
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Knowing yourself and feeling confident about yourself helps a lot in finding your passion at work. This begins with accurate understanding of your strengths and values – it’s what makes you feel good about yourself. The process starts by evaluating the factors that molded your personality – family, experiences, education, and trainings. Majority of your…
When the drums of war start beating, can cooler heads prevail and negotiations in good faith start? Vijay Mehta has written a useful overview of efforts to create a Department of Peace within governments so that there would be an institutionalized official voice proposing other avenues than war. (1) That Cooler Heads May Prevail – How Not to Go to War Such proposals are not new. In 1943, Alexander Wiley, a liberal Republican senator had proposed to President Franklin Roosevelt that he establish a cabinet-level post of Secretary of Peace as there was already a Secretary of War. The Secretary of War has now been renamed Secretary of Defense, but the function has not radically changed. A Secretary of Peace in Wiley’s vision would be charged with preempting conflicts before they exploded into violence and proposing peaceful resolutions. In the U.S.A. after the end of the Second World War, in a “never again” atmosphere, other members of Congress suggested the creation of such a Department of Peace. However, such a vision was never transformed into a reality. As the Cold War took up ever more energy and funds, a compromise was reached in 1984 at the time that Ronald Reagan was President. The U.S. Institute of Peace was created and has produced some useful publications and does some conflict resolution training for diplomats and mediators. However, the leadership of the Institute of Peace has not played a visible role in foreign policy formation. One must look elsewhere for cooler voices to cover the beat of the war drums. There is currently a test in real time as the situation in Venezuela grows more complex. There are real possibilities of armed violence, ranging from armed violence within the country to the creation of armed militias operating from Colombia and Brazil…
Over the past eight weeks, we’ve begun changing our perspective of self-care, taking it from a purely individual pursuit to one that relies on community, and filling our toolbox with best practices, resources, and practical tips along the way.
Now, for this final installment of the “Self-Care in Politically Charged Times” Series, we’re going to start looking at self-care as a societal movement that we must champion. Take a moment to imagine the power of a self-care movement—a wave of kind care connecting communities, healing our bodies and minds, sustaining our energy and momentum, and helping us all live healthier, happier, and more balanced lives.
That’s pretty awesome.
So how do we make self-care a cornerstone practice, bringing it into our social groups, homes, and offices? Before we embark on this journey, I think it’s important to examine and appreciate the rich history of self-care.
The “radical” concept of self-care was born during the civil rights era, a time when brave individuals were fighting the relentless enemies of prejudice and discrimination. These American heroes created the first real communities of care, standing strong together in the face of seemingly impossible challenges and unspeakable treatment.
It can’t be lost on us that one of the concepts they were fighting for was (and remains) the basic human right to self-care. People of color were often denied medical treatment at hospitals and health care centers. The government had turned its back on them. Self-care, quite literally, became a matter of life and death. They were fighting an exhausting battle and the only support to be found was in each other and within themselves.
The basic idea of being able to care for oneself, of having the time, money and resources necessary to do so, was born out of the civil rights movement.
We don’t just deserve to be alive, we have the right to live our best lives.
In our age of bath bombs, drop-in meditation studios and face masks, self-care may seem like a no-brainer, but for populations that were (and still are) marginalized, it was a bold statement and one that should inspire us all today. We don’t just deserve to be alive, we have the right to live our best lives.
What is a movement anyway? A movement is simply a group of people who share a purpose and create change together. Yes, a successful one requires strong leadership and partnerships, support from stakeholders, well-defined goals, and a solid plan in place to achieve them. However, more than anything else a movement requires passionate members. It demands energy and skin in the game from those who want to move the needle and drive the change.
Sound like anyone you know?
I hope so because the times are ripe for change. Following the 2016 presidential election, a growing uneasiness and undercurrent of anxiety has emerged in this country—regardless of who you voted for and what side of the political spectrum you find yourself in. If you ask me, it’s a genuine national health crisis. But it can also be the impetus for a self-care movement that can have a profound and lasting impact on this country.
We have the opportunity to reclaim the term self-care and make it synonymous again with the late activist Audre Lorde’s statement that self-care is “not self-indulgent, it is self-preservation”.
We need to understand that our self-care impacts the lives of those around us in innumerable positive ways.
In order for self-care to become a national movement, we must be clear about what it is and what it’s for: its intention and purpose. The motivation behind self-care needs to extend beyond our own in-the-moment happiness. We need to understand that our self-care impacts the lives of those around us in innumerable positive ways. We need to realize that from a macro perspective, self-care reaches beyond the individual to impact communities, neighborhoods, our nation, and, ultimately, the world.
So, how do we begin building our self-care movement and incorporating it into our communities and workplaces so that “communities of care” become part of the culture? Here are a few ideas. Some are easy fixes. Others are complex issues. But they’re all areas we need to explore:
1) Let’s Destigmatize Mental Health. As people who have created communities of care around us, we are the leaders of our self-care movement. Let’s commit to bringing positive energy and workable solutions to those struggling with mental health issues. We need to change the way we look at mental health in this country and make sure every person has access to the caregivers, transportation, treatment, and funds needed to properly address mental health.
2) Commit to Sharing Your Self-Care Knowledge. We all have daily routines and personal challenges. But let’s stop trying to go it alone. When we take the time to create space in our schedules for others; when we organize and meet up with our friends and social groups; even when we exchange a few thoughtful emails, we’re building communities of care and, therefore, fueling the self-care revolution — One. person. at. a. time. Let’s become the leaders who create guilt-free and inviting spaces around us. Let’s set the intentions for groups that are making a difference. Let’s make sure that the individuals in our networks enjoy the added support of those in their lives who care.
3) Help Define the Standards. The slow adoption of self-care in our culture is in big part due to a lack of definition. We don’t know what the standards of self-care are or should be because they’ve never been clearly established. It must be our mission to create a well-defined vision for self-care grounded in real principles and standards. I define self-care as the practice of taking an active role in protecting our own well-being, pursuing happiness, and having the ability, tools, and resources to respond to periods of stress so that they don’t result in imbalance and lead to a health crisis. In my past life, as the President of large service company, when a client would complain about customer service, I would first examine whether or not we, as a company, properly defined the expectations for the client. That’s the idea here. Once we define the standards for self-care, it’ll legitimize our cause by providing a clear roadmap for people to follow. They’ll be able to create a plan, measure their progress, and make changes along the way based on realistic and achievable goals.
I define self-care as the practice of taking an active role in protecting our own well-being, pursuing happiness, and having the ability, tools, and resources to respond to periods of stress so that they don’t result in imbalance and lead to a health crisis.
4) Understand that Exhausted Leadership is Poor Leadership. Exhaustion leads to shorter attention spans, increased emotional volatility, and poor decision making—Not exactly the qualities of a great leader. That’s why it’s vital that our efforts in leading the self-care movement are sustainable. If we burnout, it will be replicated by our staff, volunteers, children, and others in our sphere of influence. To create a culture of self-care we must be willing to model a sustainable work pace. We must communicate to others that social transformation work begins with the self. When we imagine what advocacy work looks like visually, for example, perhaps we can see it as a series of peaks and valleys. The peaks are where advocacy work happens, and the valleys are where we rest, celebrate and reflect, gathering our strength to climb the mountain ahead. If we conduct our lives and model this workflow in our organizations, we can build resiliency and make sure that we keep people engaged and ensure that none of us falls victim to burnout.
5) Ask Reflection Questions to Yourself and Your Team. In the effort to move from reflection to action, and to build momentum to climb that next peak, we should ask ourselves “key questions” that will help us improve our own self-care habits and that of those around us. These questions may include:
The modern self-care movement needs to start as a practice to avoid burnout, rather than as a response to it. The movement must demand that individuals put their health and wellness first without feeling guilty for doing so. If we all collectively share our plans for self-care, we declare boldly that our needs, our state of mind, our body and our overall health matters. We give permission to others to invest in themselves and take the courageous step to acknowledge that they have needs, that their needs are important, and that those needs deserve to be met.
Since this is the last week of the self-care series (or at least part 1 of the series), I don’t want you to feel like you’ve been left high and dry. I am part of your self-care community. Mindful is part of your self-care community. I hope you’ve been joining me in our private Facebook group every week for our live Q&As and meditations. This week we’re meeting on Saturday (11 am ET) instead of Friday for our final session in this series. It’s my hope that everyone will join me, share where you are in your journey, and help me continue this conversation we’ve started. And then, let’s turn this conversation into a Movement!
Thank you so much for joining me over the last 8 weeks for this self-care journey. In truth, we’ve only just begun.
Being whole and meeting our own emotional and physical needs first, is the only way we will build the world we want to see in the future.
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“No” is a word most of us use too infrequently. And, what’s worse, when we say “No” we usually add on all sorts of wheedly explanations. But “No” is a complete sentence, and here’s why.
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I recently read your e book on the seven spiritual laws, and I was wondering where I should start in order to apply these laws to my everyday life. I am unfamiliar with meditation, and I have never done yoga. So how do I go about it if I am lacking those skills? At this time, taking classes proves to be difficult. Any suggestions on how to get started at home?
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